Don't Despair If You Hate Valentines
No Lover? Husband Doesn't Buy Gifts? Valentine Tips
Feb 11, 2009
Valentine's Day is a sexy holiday that is the harbinger of spring and is filled with gourmet chocolate in lacy boxes, lace hearts, declarations of love, gifts of jewelry, food and engagement rings. But not everyone is part of a couple and sometimes even women who are coupled have a partner or husband who just don't subscribe to the sweet flowery stuff. They love their mates, but they just don't put out. So what does a woman do if she has high expectations of outward signs of love and longs to be spoiled but it just ain't happening?
The Mayo Clinic website lists some ways to cope or head off situational depression like what some people feel on holidays like Valentine's Day. It should be noted that anyone who feels at risk must contact a doctor. But these ideas may help alleviate temporary Valentine's blues.
- Acknowledge your feelings. Love and laughter can't be forced.
- Seek support. Family, friends, community, church. Compassion helps.
- Be realistic. Traditions change with time and not everyone knows how to express love.
- Understand that holidays can trigger distress in lots of people.
- Take a breather and make self-time and self-care important.
With that all firmly in mind, here are a few specific ways to celebrate Valentine's Day as a well-balanced single person or to be content even though the other spouse, mate or partner is too thick headed to get it.
- Mail order the prettiest box of chocolates you can find, include a love note and send it to yourself.
- The same is very effective if the gift is sent to the muddle-headed spouse.
- Make a date with some girlfriends for a special, upscale dinner including wine and music.
- Spend the day with a special child or teen.
- Scour the internet for a special item that's a bit out of the budget, but extremely coveted. Order it.
- Go to a play, a concert or a dance performance all alone and relish the experience.
- Light candles, fill the tub, play music, take a fantastic love story along.
- Find a meditation group and join them for the evening.
- Take a weekend trip. Alone or with someone warm and special.
- Buy the sexiest item of clothing available and wear it.
- Volunteer to help or visit someone.
There's one more very viable choice, practiced by thousands of people the world over. Though many countries celebrate Valentine's Day, many others don't. It's 100% acceptable and very satisfying to treat this day as another plain old, special day of life.
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